A Word to the Reader
“For our genteel Victorian ancestors, there was no such thing as casual entertaining. Theirs, after all, was a world in which a minor misstep could ruin a gentleman’s reputation – and even more definitely a lady’s. For better or worse, ignorance was no excuse for bad behavior, as the all-important rules of social intercourse were copiously codified in myriad books of etiquette.
[…] Married women were officially allowed to down five or six glasses of wine at a formal dinner, if they cared to do so, but the young and the single had to make do with three. […] we should remember that the Victorian preoccupation with etiquette grew over time, becoming more sophisticated from the simple desire to adhere to a moral code of “do unto your neighbors as you would have them do unto you”… Who, after all, can argue against being kind to our fellow human beings? Well, ok, we all know a few louts who can, but to those few we simply say:
” You, sir, are no gentleman! You, madam, are no lady”
- What is a gentleman? (oldfashionedmodernman.wordpress.com)